Unless you had a cool upbringing, chances are, the birds and the bee’s conversation probably didn’t go over instructions on how to purchase your first vibrator. And since sex-ed certainly doesn’t offer a buying guide or how-to instructions for enjoying toys, knowing what to purchase and how to use it can be intimidating for first-timers. It’s quite a shame actually, because whether you’re teaming up with a partner or exploring your body’s sensations solo, sex should be about pleasure, after all.

Here’s where we come in. Consider us the cool friend you can compare notes with and openly ask questions. We know a thing or two about sex toys, so we’ve created a handy buying guide for your first vibrator: types of vibes, some things you need to know, and recommendations, of course. Let’s get vibing, shall we?